26 February 2026
If you've ever made a New Year's resolution only to abandon it by February (or, let’s be honest, mid-January), you're not alone. Goal setting is a classic human activity—we do it for fitness, finances, relationships, careers, and yes, even for the joy of checking off to-do lists. But here's the big question: why do we set goals in the first place? What's really driving us to chase after dreams, climb metaphorical mountains, or finally clean out that cluttered garage?
Let’s dive headfirst into the psychology behind our goal-setting obsession. Spoiler alert: it’s not just about the end result.
When we set a goal—whether it’s to run a marathon, write a novel, or simply drink more water—we’re essentially telling our brain: “Hey, this matters to me.” And in return, our brain gives us a nice chemical cocktail of dopamine every time we make progress.
The more we feel that buzz, the more we’re motivated to keep going. Goals light the path; dopamine keeps us walking it.
When you run because it clears your head and makes you happy? That’s intrinsic. It’s like the fireplace warmth of motivation—cozy, long-lasting, and self-sustaining.
While this flavor of motivation can give you a strong (but short-lived) boost, it’s not always enough to keep you going when things get tough. It’s like guzzling espresso—you’ll get a quick jolt, but crash later if there’s no deeper reason behind the goal.
Spoiler alert: The sweet spot is often a blend of both. A little external push with a solid internal "why" can be a powerful combo.
Here’s the lowdown:
1. Physiological Needs – Food, water, shelter. (Yeah, the obvious stuff.)
2. Safety Needs – Job security, health, stability.
3. Love & Belonging – Relationships, friendships, social connections.
4. Esteem – Recognition, respect, self-confidence.
5. Self-Actualization – Achieving your full potential, creative expression, personal growth.
Why does this matter? Because the type of goals you set often reflect where you are in that hierarchy. If you’re struggling to pay rent, your goal might be financial stability. If you’ve got that covered, you might aim for career growth or inner peace.
Our goals mirror our needs.
So, why do we do this?
The result? Goals that look good on paper but feel empty in practice.
- S – Specific: “I want to read more” is vague. “I want to read one book per month” is specific.
- M – Measurable: Track your progress like you’re monitoring a pet tamagotchi.
- A – Achievable: Aim high, but stay grounded. If you’ve never jogged, maybe start with a 5K before aiming for an ultra-marathon.
- R – Relevant: Make sure the goal actually aligns with what you want—not what looks cool on Instagram.
- T – Time-bound: Give your goal a deadline. Open-ended goals are basically just suggestions.
You set a goal → make progress → feel good → get motivated → keep going.
When you succeed at a goal—even a small one—it builds your self-efficacy (a fancy term for “Hey, I can actually do this!”). And that belief boosts your motivation for the next goal.
Think of it like a snowball rolling down a hill. The more momentum it builds, the bigger it gets.
- Visualize Success: Picture yourself achieving your goal. Taste it. Feel it. Wear it like a badass imaginary outfit.
- Break It Down: Small steps equal big results. Don’t try to leap across a canyon—build a bridge instead.
- Track Progress: Whether it’s a bullet journal or an app, regular check-ins help keep your goal top of mind.
- Reward Yourself: Celebrate the wins. Dance party in your kitchen? Yes. Fancy coffee after a tough workout? Absolutely.
- Reassess Regularly: Goals can evolve as you do. Don’t be afraid to tweak them if they no longer fit your vibe.
When you understand your motivation, your goals become more than tasks—they become transformation.
So go ahead, set that weird, wonderful, deeply personal goal. Your future self is cheering you on already.
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Ember Forbes
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Naomi Gibson
Insightful article on goal-setting motivations!
February 26, 2026 at 4:22 AM