19 November 2025
Let’s be real: uncertainty sucks. That uncomfortable feeling in your gut? The racing thoughts at 2 AM? The what-ifs playing on repeat in your head like a broken record? Yep, that’s the weight of not knowing what’s coming next. Whether it's the fear of losing a job, worrying about your health, or feeling unsure about where your relationship is heading, uncertainty can creep into every corner of your life.
But here's the thing — none of us can completely avoid uncertainty. It’s part of being human. What we can do is learn how to deal with it in a healthier way, so it doesn’t run our lives. This article will walk you through practical, down-to-earth strategies to help you handle the unknown with more confidence (and less panic).
Our brains love control. Structure. Predictability.
When we don’t know what’s coming, our mind goes into overdrive trying to prepare for every possible outcome. It's like your brain is playing a never-ending game of mental chess, planning 12 moves ahead — just in case.
This “what if” thinking keeps us in a heightened state of anxiety. It’s exhausting. And sometimes, trying to control everything ends up making us feel more out of control.
- Mental Drain: Constant worry takes a toll on focus, memory, and emotional stability.
- Physical Symptoms: Headaches, muscle tension, fatigue, or stomach issues can stem from prolonged uncertainty.
- Emotional Rollercoaster: Anxiety, irritability, hopelessness — sound familiar?
Ignoring the stress of uncertainty doesn’t make it go away. It just builds up, like pressure in a soda can. Eventually, it’ll pop.
No sugarcoating it — life is unpredictable. The more we try to control every piece of the puzzle, the more frustrated we’ll feel when it falls apart. Instead of fighting uncertainty, try sitting with it. Accept that not everything needs to be figured out right now.
It’s a shift in mindset. But once you stop resisting the unknown, it stops feeling so threatening.
Think of it like surfing. You can’t control the waves, but you can learn to ride them without wiping out every time.
Let’s say you’re waiting to hear back on a job interview. Instead of obsessing over whether you’ll get the position, redirect your energy. Update your resume. Apply for other roles. Start a side project. Do something productive with the power you do have.
This switches your mindset from helpless to proactive. And that change? It’s a game-changer.
You don’t have to go overboard or plan every hour. Just stick to a few things that create a sense of normalcy.
When everything else feels up in the air, your routine reminds you that not everything is spinning out of control.
Letting go doesn’t mean giving up. It means setting down what isn’t yours to carry. Worrying about things you have zero influence over is like trying to hold onto sand — the tighter you grip, the more it slips through your fingers.
Try this: write down what’s bothering you. Then draw two circles.
- Circle 1: What I Can Control
- Circle 2: What I Can’t
List each worry in the appropriate circle. Then physically cross out the second circle. Rip the page if that helps. It’s a small act, but it's powerful. It's you saying, “This isn't mine to fix.”
When you're stuck in "what-if" mode, you're living in the future. Mindfulness brings you back to now. And when you're grounded in the present, uncertainty loses some of its punch.
Simple ways to stay mindful:
- Focus on your five senses. What can you hear, smell, touch, taste, see?
- Practice slow breathing: Inhale for 4. Hold for 4. Exhale for 4.
- Try guided meditation (check out apps like Calm or Insight Timer)
The present is the only place where we have any real power. So stay there as often as you can.
Call it “Anxious Annie” or “Worried Walter” — giving your anxiety a name helps separate you from it. You’re not your thoughts. You’re the observer of them.
When a fear pops up, say, “Oh hey, Anxious Annie is back at it again.” That little trick helps you create distance between you and your intrusive thoughts. And the distance gives you power.
Also? It adds a bit of humor to the whole ordeal — and laughter can go a long way when you’re drowning in stress.
Bottling it up? That only makes the pressure build.
Connection is one of the best antidotes to anxiety. Let someone else help carry the load — even if all they do is listen.
You’re allowed to feel nervous, frustrated, or scared about what’s happening (or not happening) in your life. Don’t shame yourself for struggling. Emotions are messengers, not enemies. Let them pass through without clinging to them or pushing them away.
Sometimes, the fastest way out of a hard feeling is to just feel it.
Close your eyes. Picture a place where you feel calm and safe — maybe it’s a beach, a cabin, or your childhood bedroom. Imagine yourself there, breathing easily, feeling grounded. Let that scene soak in.
The brain doesn’t always distinguish imagined calmness from real calmness. This trick gives your nervous system a mini-reset. Practice it regularly, and your mind will start reaching for that calm faster the next time things feel shaky.
Think about it. Some of the best things in life come from the blank spaces, from the plot twists, from the times when you had no idea what was next.
Uncertainty = possibility.
Yeah, it’s uncomfortable. But it’s also the space where growth happens. Where new beginnings are born. Where hidden strengths show up.
So instead of fearing the unknown, try to stay curious. Ask yourself: “What might this make possible?”
If you’re experiencing:
- Sleep problems
- Panic attacks
- Constant worry interfering with daily life
- Depression or hopelessness
…it might be time to see a therapist. Mental health support isn’t just for crisis moments. It’s for building resilience before you hit the breaking point.
You don’t need all the answers to move forward. You just need to believe that you’ll figure it out — one messy, beautiful, uncertain step at a time.
So take a deep breath. Feel your feet on the ground. And remind yourself: You’ve made it through every unknown you’ve faced so far. Trust that you’ll make it through this one too.
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Category:
Coping MechanismsAuthor:
Ember Forbes